When my Mark does something that makes me very proud of him, I will ask him why he did it. He will always use a girl's high voice (mimicking me) and he'll say, "My character!!" (with copious amounts of sarcasm)
He knows that I prefer to do things which are within my character. He also knows I am absolutely tormented when I allow my emotions about another person to affect who I am. It simply pisses me right off.
I have been absolutely ripe with anger towards a particular situation over the past year. This is mostly due to it affecting more than just me, but countless others have been swept into a storm. I can tell you with quite a bit of confidence that it deserves anger. I am sure you also have something in your life where anger is the appropriate emotion.
I am, however learning a lot about the word 'justification'. I think in many cases, if we feel our anger is justified, than we think it is okay to have it. Being justified doesn't actually make the anger feel any better. You still kind of feel like crap all the time.
To set anger on a proper path, I was really striving to make it do something for the situation rather than just swell and propagate. But guess what? There are situations where anger, even when converted to better energy does NOTHING. There are some situations where NOTHING can be done. Then, we have to learn how to swallow the jagged little pill Alanis Morissette refers to.
So, you have yourself in a situation where anger does nothing and the converted energy does nothing to change the situation. What you are left with is a ravaged soul from a sharp tablet and everything else is exactly the same.
What is affected the most? Your health. You may gain or lose weight, you may age 10 years in 1 year or you may have the worst thing ever to happen to you: your character has been stripped of its nutrients and you are in no position to be salt on the Earth. You actually render yourself useless and you may as well grab ice cream and watch soap operas.
What else is affected? The people around you who miss your cheerier disposition.
While I have effectively given up (ew, harsh words) on trying to change someone, I have not given up on me and my quest to maintain a person who I can be proud of. It is paramount to moving on with my life.
And guess what, the anger IS justified. Yup. Absolutely. I am just more angry with anger being the ruler of my temple so I am kicking it to the curb.
I will still eat ice cream, though...as a treat, not to drown my sorrows.
Much LOVE on you!